Why self regulate, is my question today.
Defined: "Behaviorally, self-regulation is the ability to act in your long-term best interest, consistent with your deepest values."
I've been in the mental health field as a Child and Youth worker for over 10 years coaching children with self regulation and have personal experiences in burn out and understanding myself as an Empath, that have led me to self regulating myself.
What is so powerful about it?
Today I read a story to the boys in my daycare, The Bearnstein Bears and their Messy Room. One thing that we do when reading stories, is ask how characters appear to be feeling. After watching the mother bear clean up after the cubs over and over while the cubs were fighting, we came to the question: "How is Mama Bear feeling?" which they answered. Then I asked: "Does anyone feel how others feel when they are angry?" Some No and another Yes. My oldest son shared in the clearest definite form, "I do feel it. When my brother is crying, it feels like the sadness is inside my body and I just hold it tight to myself."
With his expression and definition of emotional experience, I witnessed a calm understanding within him. In these times of sharing, I later thanked him for sharing so honestly. In this case, the powerful part is that he understood what was happening.
Having been an Empath since a child, this clarity and openness brought me hope. Hope that our children may understand themselves as spiritual beings at a young age. My inspiration, is that more children understand the array of emotions they feel so they can navigate through them with our assistance, our compassion and be provided tools to powerfully move through them.
How many of us have wanted to run from our truths? How many of us have avoided for different lengths of time how we really feel? Some of us may lash out with anger and not even know how we impact others, or some of us are really working on being responsible with this anger. Some of us are so overwhelmed at the thought of processing feelings that bring out anxiety, that we would rather keep distracted with other things that give instant relief. Some of us may wish it would just end and give us a rest.
No matter who we are and in which experience, it's just that. An experience to bring us closer to ourself, our truth. Closer to the point of understanding who and what we want, so that we may take steps forward and be the leader in creating our lives.
So self regulating is powerful....perhaps it's because it gives us access within to learn and grow our soul.
May we each challenge ourselves and others in our life, so we may be truth seekers, truth speakers and shift powerfully together. Trust your hearts, brave through your feelings, acknowledge your many aspects of self and exercise tools to move gracefully to a point of creative intention.
Woman, Wife, Mother and Intuitive. Consciously evolving with all of nature and humanity.