“Bart I want you to clean your room” says his mom
“I don’t want to do that right now” says Bart
“Do it now, I want it done now” exclaims mom
“No mom, not now!!!” shouts Bart
“You are being asked now or else….” end of story.
Where does it go from there?
More shouting, demands, hurtful exchanges and unhappy communication?
Here, we shed light on how often we move through the fast paced world of today.
The need of a parent can sometimes feel stronger and different than that of a child. For mom, cleaning
the room was important.
To Bart, completing his toy creation was far more important, than cleaning it up.
There is an underlying need each individual holds, they are often different.
Communicating in a way, where both individuals invest in a common need or combine their needs together, so both are met, feels really good.
With that intention of communication, lets try the conversation again.
“Bart I want you to clean your room” asks mom
“I don’t want to do that right now” says Bart
“What are you invested in right now? asks mom
“I am building this tower so all my new characters can stand on it” responded Bart
“Getting the house clean will feel good for me. Since your room is part of this house, you cleaning your room will help me accomplish that. When you are done can you clean it?” asks mom
“Sure mom” responded Bart
Communication is not always this easy but why not?
The difference is clearly felt in the second conversation.
Being clear about each person’s individual need and investing in each others happiness, results in a collaborated team effort.
Respect, in the past, has been demonstrated by listening to our elders, they are older and wiser. The notion of do what you are told because I said so.
There is no doubt, after many experiences, indeed adults ‘know’ much more. When a young person comes into the world, they already know a deep part of them self. They are connected to Source energy. The appear alive and free. They know what they want and don’t want. Adults have had experiences that shaped their thinking, feelings perhaps limiting ones, which can pull them away from the NOW.
Therefore, experience + the now/ Source energy= what to you?
What action is possible when combining both?
Collaborating and respecting each others needs, experiences and strengths are necessary to come together to provide good feelings. It provides a respect that begins within and expands itself unto others in a natural way, creating a union that people can feel proud of.
Pull back and look forward in the future.
A successful future for a child begins with an understanding of self respect.
That grows into respecting others with confidence and heart. Where will this skill and natural state extend itself later in adulthood?
Will they be secure, independent, happy and grounded? Yes!
If we continue to force respect, push past their own inner guidance and ‘make’ things happen vs invest in listening to them, commit to common goals and grow naturally into experiences, communication and self respect.
What is possible?
With so much LOVE
Well now, this has been a work in process for many years and will continue to be.
I am not sure I will ever stop learning how to care for this vessel! lol
I will try my best to express what I’ve learned so far, share what works for me and trust that in sharing,
it will reach any who need it.
From the beginning, I’ve been a sensitive empathic creature. I’ve been sensitive in spirit, emotion and environments, drug sensitivities, energies of others and reactions to certain foods.
You could say I fall under the category of “gluten, dairy, sugar free” person.
It’s a growing community have you heard? hahahaha!
Jokes aside. I didn’t know all this when I was young. We ate healthy, plenty of outside time and I just went along with things as they came up. I never really asked deeper questions out loud, I sure did on the inside. It wasn’t until I started seeing Naturopathic Doctors/counsellors/healers later in my 20’s, that I built an awareness of what kind of self care I truly needed.
I teach my children that we are all so VERY unique and this is a good thing. We talk about having a compassionate acceptance with where each individual person is. Each person has a will and choice to choose what they want to believe, invest in and do while they are here on Earth. I feel grateful to have the opportunity to teach them from a young age, what certain foods, environments, activities and energies do to their bodies, minds and spirits. Allowing them to make informed decisions for them self.
This is my passion, to educate and build awareness of self, as each of us, is so individual.
I have the most outstanding, dedicated and loving parents. They taught what they knew, as their children came into the world. We learn together, we make mistakes together and above all we grow together.
So, as I’ve come to ‘clean my closets’, meaning clear out the energetic debris from past hurts, traumas and experiences, there comes room to breathe and heal. With that came new habits. Boundaries and truth speaking. Owning my own feelings and expressing them when needed. Every outlet used, whether it was counselling, healings, meditation circles, naturopathic doctors or essential oils, each one provided an opportunity to become SELF aware.
Then I had CHOICES. As humans, we jump on the wagon and fall off the wagon. Sometimes I jump off on those days when I hear myself say F this!!! lol Then I get back on. I try again. I pay the price and learn some more. It’s never ending really, yet there is a growing sensation of trust and self compassion that breathes into me like never before.
I recently watched Will Smith’s Instagram, what a guy, and family for that matter!!!!
They are ROCKING the conscious train in a beautiful way. Check out 'Red Table Talk’
I am totally new to Instagram but enjoying the process of learning.
Will Smith shared some talks he was having with friends.
To sum it up; to have lasting, sustainable happiness, we need self love and discipline.
His example was; when I want to eat that pizza, there’s a part of me that says “I love you too much to let you eat that pizza, because it will make you feel bad, so I won’t let you”
In that we use “self love” to commit to ourself, invest in the discipline to say NO and feel good, which feeds the momentum of happiness. Brilliant!!!
So when I love and care for my six sensory SELF I:
Take regular moments of appreciation outside in nature and I feel good.
I stop the to do’s and get in the moment with my kids and I laugh or play and it feels good.
I keep sugar snacks out of the house so they don’t tempt me, I stay disciplined to foods that feel good.
I smudge my home and self when I remember, which is a new goal to perform many times weekly, I feel lighter when I do and so does my home.
I read books that open my heart to knowing myself more and build wisdom from other people’s journeys
I spend quality time with my husband, I listen, I share, I love and we connect, priceless.
I ask for help when I am down, which is a hard thing to do, but every time I do I am practicing and getting better.
I write and journal, have been for over 20 years, this gets out what needs to be expressed when I don’t want to share it with others. Makes my inner reality realized, that feels good.
I walk outside, speed walk depending on how frustrated of a mother I am that day lol…nights when the sun goes down are my favourite. The world really comes alive in a new kind of way.
I go out with friends and we share ourselves honestly and deeply. So thankful and blessed!!!
I watch shows when I’ve done enough and I deserve a rest.
I swim to bring fluidity to my joints and feel like a mermaid!
I use Mudras (hand positions) to help calm my inner body when it’s tense, anxious or tight.
I breathe and breathe and breathe and breathe, can’t get enough of these!!!!!!!!
I go to counsellors when things arise that feel bigger than me and we work it out, feels great!
I get healings when energies are coming to the surface for healing and working it out myself doesn’t work!
I ask questions when I’m not clear and perhaps push the rules to make room for integrity.
I eat foods that work with my body and alkalizing is where it’s at for this chick!!!! Yea yea probiotics!!!
I keep an open mind when I am learning new things. I never stop learning.
I meet new people all the time and enjoy getting to know them. I see new parts of myself through our connections and relationships!
I give of myself in service when I have plenty, this fills my heart and feels AMAZING!
I quiet down to listen within and ask for help from my guides, angels, loved ones, they got my back.
I dream journal and process them almost every day, I let them guide me and I trust in their wisdom. No messing around there, it’s truth when it comes out in dream time!!
I OIL UP!!! When ever I can, sniff and apply, bath time or bottoms of the feet. Healing Earth Magic right there!!!!
I FEEL, HEAL and LET GO and of course, DO MY BEST AND F THE REST!!! LOL
This world is changing.
We are growing in new energetic ways.
It can feel crazy,
It can feel inspiring.
It can feel dizzy or brain foggy.
It can feel ragging or angry.
It can feel calm and settling.
What ever it is for you, get to know yourself.
Go Within….there is so much awaiting your attention.
May you have courage to brave yourself,
Love to see yourself through and an openness to create what you truly desire.
With so much LOVE
Woman, Wife, Mother and Intuitive. Consciously evolving with all of nature and humanity.