"Live life as if everything is rigged in your favour" -Rumi
It can be quite the trip, juggling all the ins and outs of life.
As a parent of young/older children, caregiver of an ill or dependent family member.
Roles and responsibilities can weigh in heavy in work places, homes, relationships &
within our society these days.
Life begins with the ability to see the good in many situations, people and things.
Some days it sure can be a stretch to find good, when things feel so heavy.
You feeling the tensions, uprooting, past, sensations, alarming concerns lately?
You are not alone.
When I was young, at times I was portrayed as naive, yet in my heart
I knew looking for the good kept me feeling hopeful, light and connected
to a positive source within and around me.
Then as I grew up, along came human experience.
Hurts, pains, confusions, frustrations, trials, errors, mistakes; they thickened the skin around me & at times can have me second guessing the good.
Yet when I take Rumi's quote from above and remain open to what each experience is teaching or providing me, I also experience the good, warm, kind, fun, lessons, strengths, love and live the times of my life too.
It's all part of the whole but man can it ever be challenging sometimes!!!!
Practicing the art of embodied experience, opens a gateway to knowing myself.
It provides awareness to build upon the things I learn and choose what to do with them.
Because lets be real, you are the expert in your own life.
At times you need life experiences or supports to help you get really clear.
What have you survived?
What do you stand for?
Are you willing to hold yourself in all your gifts & flaws?
It’s through the contrast you see clearly your needs/desires.
Through the pain you get to know your strength.
In the shadows you reach for your light.
Together with others, you can unconditionally hold strong together.
Be witness to each other, share empathy and support the real hearing
of another’s experiences.
Release the need to fix it, judge it; just be together as it shifts.
Stand in your own truth, so that another may awaken to their own.
Taking risks can feel very vulnerable, yet they are your most valuable tool for transformation.
Take risks as you feel the impulse or urge to do so, it's like the waves
& tides of the ocean. Can you listen to the Earth's ocean that’s suffering right now?
Listen to the waters inside you that are screaming for your care, to listen and create a
steady movement or flow.
You go for it, you wait, you weep, you celebrate.
It’s a dance, back and forth, a rhythm that connects you with nature and together.
What I’ve learned from studying counselling, dynamics of groups, natural development, reading/connecting subtle body language/energy is, the need to delve within to survive & thrive. Being a healer in any capacity starts with healing yourself.
As I truly believe we are our own healers.
For the last 20 years I’ve been discovering myself over and over and over.
Yet does it ever end? Never!
What stands out each step of the way, is the little girl inside me that wants to be seen, in her goodness.
So I affirm, I practice, I raise her up and I stand in the storm and brave it with her.
I trust the risks that my heart calls me into action.
I love hard. I really give a shit. I keep doing my best.
Intending that we experience the highest good, for us all.
So with that, I sign off.
With tears of joy, as I take on each discomfort in stride.
I believe in you too.
I pray for grace, ask for help & give thanks for it all.
With an F word in there often or sometimes... lol
Fear not your flaws, mistakes, embarrassments, traumas, hurts or ideas.
They are the thing that guides you to the BEST parts of life.
That part IS you.
Keep find the good and share it. abundantly!
We need YOU.
With all my heart.
Photo credit: Bayview Elementary Mural Project
I’ve come to yet another, tender time in my life, out of many. A time where the soft whisperings of my soul speak to me. They speak through my pain, reactions, awareness; they connect through my body & heart. With patience and surrender I take time to hold myself. I take time to allow what’s showing up, in a way that lets me be human & spiritual.
Belonging defined, is an affinity for a place or situation. Belonging in a group defined, is a sense of fitting in or feeling like you are an important member of a group.
This word has been floating all around me for weeks now. I’ve remained open to what it’s trying to teach me.
I listen through my friends expressions, I listen to the frustrations I feel, I listen to the needs I learn about as I'm growing and changing. I listen with courage so I may heal what’s been squashed. I allow the contrast to guide me into clearer sensations of knowing & trust my body in what feels good and what doesn’t.
The body is brilliant meter that communicates intelligently.
As I continue my practice, its getting louder & clearer.
To belong for me, is evolving because isn’t that why we are here?
To challenge ourselves, question beliefs, expand on what’s possible and push through limitations; re-investing ourselves is quite the process. It’s a fluid process and one that gets more rich and exciting over time.
I can get caught in traps of old habits & past hurts like any other human. We all do.
What’s possible is a gap of awareness or silent acceptance that provides compassion to let myself be where I need to be. This was not always the case for me, as my past experience with co-dependency led me to adapt, shape shift & change into what others needed me to be. Therefore, ensuring that others are ok before my own self.
This awareness, silence whisper and compassion, lends itself to me now and in turn to others as well. What a gift.
It hit me, this past week when I caught myself in an uncomfortable emotion, wanting my children to just stop & get past the negative situation they were in.
I thought, 'I need them to change so that I feel ok'….
Does that happen with others in life too, not just our children?
'If they would just agree with me, or do as I want, then I will be ok'.
I wondered how can I shift myself first, so that I feel ok.
Then come at this situation with a different energy & perspective.
Vibration has everything to do with the attraction of energy we want, it’s the law of the universe.
I didn’t say it’s easy, I’m learning as I go and also noticing how much better it works.
With others but especially with my children.
Belonging has become one of my deep desires, to be OK with myself no matter what’s going on around me.
Belonging had always been something I sought outside of myself.
Approval by anyone that I was with, whether that’s a close or new relationship, either a friend or co-worker, parent or authority figure.
Can you relate?
I’m clear that the most important approval needed is my self-approval.
For living from that space changes everything.
It takes time to heal old wounds, to mend the torn bits of our insides, to sort out the stories & re-create new pathways.
It’s also VERY possible, as neuroplasticity is so graciously confirming.
Our paths have many winding roads, turns, bumps and bruises. Yet, the sweetest part comes when it doesn’t matter how many, the tender parts get clearer, the needs become seen & heard, the belonging starts to manifest from deep inside, bringing in places, situations & people that match the clarity & vibrations.
It takes more energy to lie than it does to tell the truth.
It takes more energy to pretend then it does to be real.
It’s the fear of being accepted and belonging that gets in the way of being true to ourself above all. The benefits out weight the fears, when we step into trusting our feelings, process & get the support to stand in the face of it all.
“Simplicity, patience, compassion.
These three are your greatest treasures.
Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being.
Patient with both friends and enemies,
you accord with the way things are.
Compassionate toward yourself,
you reconcile all beings in the world.”
― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching
I pray that light will always find you, lead you and guide you back to YOU.
May belonging begin with you & create abundant connections that support you.
With all my love
Woman, Wife, Mother and Intuitive. Consciously evolving with all of nature and humanity.